“The seed is in the ground.
Now may we rest in hope
While darkness does its work.”
– Wendell Berry
In the grief groups we facilitate, people sometimes say something like, “I know this sounds negative, but…” This often comes before a person shares something painful. Even in a grief group, where people come to share hard things, some apologize for not being positive.
In our groups, we invite people to share the truth of their lives, just as they are. No need to label emotions/experiences or thoughts as “positive” or “negative.” No need to apologize for not seeing a “bright side.” Sometimes the journey through loss leads through dark places. Other people’s attempts to cheer us – or the pressure to “move on,” can exacerbate the disorientation, as we may feel rushed and alone.
This is where Wendell Berry’s words offer a powerful alternative: what if the darkness of loss can be rich soil for the seeds of new life to grow? The seed cannot be rushed, but it can be nurtured with patience, gentleness and care.
We can grieve deeply and wait with hope. God is at work, even in the darkness.
If you are interested in joining a group, or establishing one at your community, contact Optage Hospice or call Jenny Schroedel at 651-341-7105. Optage is the home and community services division of Presbyterian Homes & Services.