The laziness of grief
“And no one ever told me about the laziness of grief. Except at my job — where the machine seems…
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Regrets & finding peace
“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” – Soren Kierkegaard, paraphrased from “Journals and Papers 1843” In grief – and in life – love often…
Mapping our grief
If you were to make a map of your own grief, what would it look like? I think of grief as a country that few would choose to visit, let alone…
Play your grief card
A grieving mother once shared with me that she was shocked at how insensitive others were, how they kept forgetting that she was in pain. She said, “I wish I…
Making space for grief
I once knew a woman whose son had died. Her grief was profound and unpredictable, and she was often caught off guard by the intense emotions she experienced. Even a…
Hope for the new year
When you have experienced a loss, the whole world can feel different. Even the new year can feel strange. While others are celebrating, making resolutions, and looking forward with hope,…
Grief and the holidays
‘Tis the season of twinkling lights, holiday cheer, and frenzied shopping. But it is also a time of gathering darkness, short days and long, frosty nights. As the winter deepens…
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Grief and gratitude
Here in the Midwest, the trees have shed their leaves as long dark nights give way to frosty mornings. Soon,…
Living in the gap
Fall is upon us. The trees are dropping their leaves, giving way to bare branches, cool nights and shorter days.…
You are not alone
“The act of living is different all through,” C.S. Lewis wrote in the book, A Grief Observed. Lewis was reflecting…
Visiting familiar places when you’re grieving
In a time of loss, the world can feel strange. Sometimes even a drive around your own familiar neighborhood can…
Seasons of grief: loss and decisions
If you are in a season of caregiving or facing the grief that follows, you may have heard the advice,…
The long goodbye: understanding anticipatory grief
Some of our most profound losses are invisible to others. From the moment you learn that a loved one is…
Navigating the holidays
December is upon us, with the twinkling lights, the rush of shopping and the holiday gatherings. This time of year…